Wantt 10 points? Can someone give me an honest opinion on a troubled relationship?
jessica asked:
It may take a while to read and I may have to continue it under more details so please wait until I’m done explaining. Also, please be kind. I am so depressed right now and am a wreck. My bf and I were seeing each other for 8 years. It started out well but the past couple years have been very rough. Before I met him, I had a bad drug problem and drank too much as well. I remained clean for the first part of our relationship although did drink. He smoked a lot of pot but didn’t drink at all. We began using drugs together for some reason and he began using Heroin which was my old habit. We became very addicted and I stole a lot from my Mom. He managed to stop for a while and I continued. I’d be gone for days and he’d be heartbroken. We lived with my Mom. I also have severe emotional and psychological problems. He began using again with me and he and I went to different short term rehabs. Mine didn’t work for me because it was just a fancy detox. (cont’d)
He had to go to a state funded rehab and it was only 14 days. When he came out, he was VERY enthusiastic about staying clean and wanted to go to AA meetings all the time (there’s isn’t many NA meetings around us) but because of lack of transportation, he stopped. He started using once in a while again but the big problem was that he started drinking heavily which he never did in the 8 years we were together. I continued to drink but finally stopped drugs. My drinking has become very ugly. I black out and act and do very ****** things. Many people told him that I cheated on him numerous times although it was only a couple of times. He moved back home and told me he needed a break and proceeded to tell me that he was sleeping and seeing someone else. This girl told me she had HEP. C and many people know it. Both of her exs have it. I called his Mom and told her ’cause he wouldn’t listen to me. Well, she had her Mom (who is a health care worker) call his Mom and deny (cont’d)
However, her Mom just covered for her ’cause this is manslaughter. She also sleeps with guys to have a place to stay. She had a 80 year old sugar daddy. She prostiutes as well. He finally called me yesterday AND SAID THAT HE DOES WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER and he missed me a lot but he still needs time. This girl is going to prison in 2 weeks and he swears this has nothing to do with it. He said that he slept with her ’cause she made him feel special and out of revenge. I can’t live without him and he knows it. I think when we get back together that WE MUST GET COUNSELING and agree to stop all this drinking and drugging once and for all. We are killing ourselves. He also needs to get tested. I told him that I will stop dressing ****** which I do ’cause I do have a good body and it is the only thing that I feel I have to offer. My self-esteem is zero. I think we should also both go to AA. I want us to stop hanging out with the people we were as well. (cont’d)
Should I write a letter explaining all this? I KNOW MOST OF YOU THINK WE BOTH SHOULD NOT BE TOGETHER but there is really something when we are clean. We are soul-mates. We love each other so much. He told me over and over yesterday. I was thinking of writing a long, deep letter and putting special pictures on it. I wanted to mention all the conditions that our relationship needs and not just him but me. If we feel like using, we need sponsers and we need to talk to each other ASAP. I can’t leave for days and expect him to stick around. He needs to make me feel like I am important and **** so I don’t try to get attention from other guys! IF I WON’T LEAVE HIM, WHAT SUGGESTIONS DO YOU HAVE TO MAKE THIS WORK? Pleas help and please don’t tell me to go to Jerry Springer. I come from an upper middle class family and have 3 years of college but can’t work ’cause of all my problems but I want to get interested in life again like traveling and doing obedience and agility (cont’d)
with my dogs, horseback riding, maybe volunteering, etc… I NEED TO LEARN TO FEEL SPECIAL AND NOT HAVE MY LIFE REVOLVE AROUND HIM! Likewise, he needs to do the s ame. Sitting around and smoking pot isn’t a hobby. He has a lot of potential and needs to learn to support me when my Mom isn’t around and we can live on our own!!! IF YOU READ ALL THIS, I APPRECIATE IT SOOOO MUCH AND I HOPE I MAY HAVE TOUCHED SOMEONE WHO IS USING OR HAS A SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO IS USING AS WELL AND HOW IT RUINS YOU.
Arvel
It may take a while to read and I may have to continue it under more details so please wait until I’m done explaining. Also, please be kind. I am so depressed right now and am a wreck. My bf and I were seeing each other for 8 years. It started out well but the past couple years have been very rough. Before I met him, I had a bad drug problem and drank too much as well. I remained clean for the first part of our relationship although did drink. He smoked a lot of pot but didn’t drink at all. We began using drugs together for some reason and he began using Heroin which was my old habit. We became very addicted and I stole a lot from my Mom. He managed to stop for a while and I continued. I’d be gone for days and he’d be heartbroken. We lived with my Mom. I also have severe emotional and psychological problems. He began using again with me and he and I went to different short term rehabs. Mine didn’t work for me because it was just a fancy detox. (cont’d)
He had to go to a state funded rehab and it was only 14 days. When he came out, he was VERY enthusiastic about staying clean and wanted to go to AA meetings all the time (there’s isn’t many NA meetings around us) but because of lack of transportation, he stopped. He started using once in a while again but the big problem was that he started drinking heavily which he never did in the 8 years we were together. I continued to drink but finally stopped drugs. My drinking has become very ugly. I black out and act and do very ****** things. Many people told him that I cheated on him numerous times although it was only a couple of times. He moved back home and told me he needed a break and proceeded to tell me that he was sleeping and seeing someone else. This girl told me she had HEP. C and many people know it. Both of her exs have it. I called his Mom and told her ’cause he wouldn’t listen to me. Well, she had her Mom (who is a health care worker) call his Mom and deny (cont’d)
However, her Mom just covered for her ’cause this is manslaughter. She also sleeps with guys to have a place to stay. She had a 80 year old sugar daddy. She prostiutes as well. He finally called me yesterday AND SAID THAT HE DOES WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER and he missed me a lot but he still needs time. This girl is going to prison in 2 weeks and he swears this has nothing to do with it. He said that he slept with her ’cause she made him feel special and out of revenge. I can’t live without him and he knows it. I think when we get back together that WE MUST GET COUNSELING and agree to stop all this drinking and drugging once and for all. We are killing ourselves. He also needs to get tested. I told him that I will stop dressing ****** which I do ’cause I do have a good body and it is the only thing that I feel I have to offer. My self-esteem is zero. I think we should also both go to AA. I want us to stop hanging out with the people we were as well. (cont’d)
Should I write a letter explaining all this? I KNOW MOST OF YOU THINK WE BOTH SHOULD NOT BE TOGETHER but there is really something when we are clean. We are soul-mates. We love each other so much. He told me over and over yesterday. I was thinking of writing a long, deep letter and putting special pictures on it. I wanted to mention all the conditions that our relationship needs and not just him but me. If we feel like using, we need sponsers and we need to talk to each other ASAP. I can’t leave for days and expect him to stick around. He needs to make me feel like I am important and **** so I don’t try to get attention from other guys! IF I WON’T LEAVE HIM, WHAT SUGGESTIONS DO YOU HAVE TO MAKE THIS WORK? Pleas help and please don’t tell me to go to Jerry Springer. I come from an upper middle class family and have 3 years of college but can’t work ’cause of all my problems but I want to get interested in life again like traveling and doing obedience and agility (cont’d)
with my dogs, horseback riding, maybe volunteering, etc… I NEED TO LEARN TO FEEL SPECIAL AND NOT HAVE MY LIFE REVOLVE AROUND HIM! Likewise, he needs to do the s ame. Sitting around and smoking pot isn’t a hobby. He has a lot of potential and needs to learn to support me when my Mom isn’t around and we can live on our own!!! IF YOU READ ALL THIS, I APPRECIATE IT SOOOO MUCH AND I HOPE I MAY HAVE TOUCHED SOMEONE WHO IS USING OR HAS A SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO IS USING AS WELL AND HOW IT RUINS YOU.
Arvel
June 29th, 2008 at 3:44 pm
ben zelf doen wat u wilt doen en niet laat iemand u doet vertellen wat u moet doen
July 2nd, 2008 at 3:47 am
I nawet nie trzeba zobaczy? reszt? jej …. Pozb?d? si? go i naprawi? samodzielnie. Jeste? dziewczyn? ba?agan. Mam na my?li tego z szacunkiem.
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:50 am
stop using drugs!!!!
they always make it worse
they make you more moody and then you could loose someone you really care about
July 5th, 2008 at 7:25 am
Geen van u zijn bereid om in een verhouding te zijn.
July 7th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
Sie didn' t addieren alle m?gliche Details aber gerade die Tatsache, die you' Re, dieses erw?hnend, sagt dass you' Rem?de dieses Lebensstils und w?nschen eine ges?ndere ?nderung. Sie m?ssen dich mit Ihrem Freund hinsitzen und ein ernstes sprechen lassen, ?ber wo Sie zwei in Ihre Leben gehen. Erkl?ren Sie ihm, den Sie die Drogen verlassen m?chten, dem Trinken, dem Diebstahl, etc.-Unterst?tzung beim Bleiben sauber. Bei Ihrer Mamma und bitten sie, Ihnen zu helfen zu werden entschuldigen sich eine bessere Person. Erhalten Sie die ganze Unterst?tzung, die Sie k?nnen, wenn Sie Ihr Leben f?r das bessere ?ndern. Wenn Sie zwei zusammen f?r 8 Jahre, durch ALLES gewesen sind, sollten Sie sein, sich zu helfen, sauber zu werden. Wohin geht Ihr Leben und wo w?nschen Sie es gehen? Viel Glueck.
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So Sie beide ?berbr?cker auf einander jetzt auch? Betrachten Sie alle negativen Konsequenzen Ihres Verhaltens. Beide von Ihnen. Bewerten Sie bitte Ihr Leben neu und erhalten Sie auf dem rechten Weg. Und lassen Sie Ihren Freund gepr?ft erhalten.
July 7th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
de relatie is zeker een puinhoop … Sorry, maar ik denk dat je twoshould worden in een afkickkliniek opnieuw.
July 10th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
hoe oud ben je? zijn ok …. gewoon proberen mensen te vragen die u in de buurt liggen van … om te helpen …. im zeker weet dat ze u kunnen helpen in sommige wayy ….
July 13th, 2008 at 7:55 pm
als hij urook of u r in elk geval makend hem maakt is u indien enkel verbreken zijn niet gezond en ik kent Igeluid zoals een therapeut maar het veroorzaakt de ware enkel langzaam onderbreking awy van hem en als u vindt gedreigd door hem hem maak met u als enkel verdelen ben precies het tegengestelde van welk u r
p.s. heilige crapsummerizeeee
July 15th, 2008 at 3:59 am
Powa?nie … jego dobre rzeczy, które faktycznie zrealizowa? to, co zrobiono, aby Twoje ?ycie jest z?e .. Nie obrazi?, ale je?li jej ból you so much, why are you doing it? Wiem, ca?y jej uzale?nienia rzecz?, ale je?li spróbujesz wystarczy Ci zbyt twarde mo?na uzyska? przesz?o?ci, ?e etap! Ty te? konieczno?? ponownego rozpocz?cia! Wydaje mi si? jak on zatrzyma?, je?li b?dzie zbyt .. Marka porozumienia ze sob?, ?e whoeve rozpoczyna si? przy u?yciu narkotyków, picia, druga osoba zostawi … Wiem, ?e brzmi z?e .. ale d?wi?ki soo bad guys, który prawdopodobnie zwyczaj chc? to zrobi? … ?ycz? Wam ch?opaki najlepszych szcz??cia n Nie poddawaj si?
July 15th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
The best of your lives back in control then youll feel better the best of your time to you both will be together.
July 19th, 2008 at 4:18 am
Ik voel voor u. Ik vocht alcoholisme voor het grootste deel van mijn volwassen leven. Ik ging naar een goede detoxfaciliteit op 6 Maart van vorig jaar. Ik zal een weinig mijn 1 jaar van gematigdheid in over een maand vieren. U moet deze kerel uit uw leven op dit ogenblik volledig worden. Als u over het schoonmaken van ernstig bent, zult u Elk van uw vroegere " moeten vermijden; pals" , en dit omvat hem! Schoon blijven is taai genoeg op uw. U zult waarschijnlijk niet de druk van de mensen rond u aan gebruik kunnen opnieuw weerstaan. Ga naar een ernstige detox weg zolang het neemt. Don' t zorg over geld, uw baan, uw familie, uw vrienden of iedereen maar U! Luister aan de adviseurs, en werkelijk " see" de toekomst in uw mening. Zie het leven van vrijheid van de gevangenis dat de verslaving werkelijk is. Teveel over me, maar toen ik van detox terugkwam, ik vertelde spreken niet trots iedereen ik waar I' weet; D. Het verbaasde me hoe mensen die didn' t kent me zelfs werkelijk gaf me aanmoediging en gelukwenste me. Het vergde maanden voor mijn hoofd, werkelijk de nutteloosheid te ontruimen en te zien om mijn mening voor een vals gevoel van geluk te veranderen. Breek de banden met uw verleden. Als u op kalmerend moet krijgen, zie een psycholoog. Don' t zelfs zorg over zich het verontschuldigen aan uw moeder, begrijpt zij. TOON haar hoe droevig u door de met dingen bent op te houden die u maakten van haar stelen. Niets zou moeten zich op de manier van u bevinden die uw het levensrug krijgen. verstuur me met de elektronische post, hebben wij een partij in gemeenschappelijk!
July 19th, 2008 at 4:22 am
For something nice ie car your life and spend as much time as possible keeping busy think of people who you also need something to go into your life and.