How Do You Establish Close Relationships?
otepfan99 asked:
Since my mother died about 9 years ago, I have trouble establishing close friendships or being close to family or friends that I have. I feel most comfortable when I’m alone and other people tend to just look at me whenever I’m around them. Or if anyone does speak to me, they soon lose interest because I have no idea what to say to them or how I’m supposed to act around them. So I just keep to myself and my own thoughts while only occasionally saying a few words here and there to the few aquaintances I have managed to make.
Since my mother died about 9 years ago, I have trouble establishing close friendships or being close to family or friends that I have. I feel most comfortable when I’m alone and other people tend to just look at me whenever I’m around them. Or if anyone does speak to me, they soon lose interest because I have no idea what to say to them or how I’m supposed to act around them. So I just keep to myself and my own thoughts while only occasionally saying a few words here and there to the few aquaintances I have managed to make.
Its very frustrating though, and I deeply desire to feel close to people again…I just dont know how to do that or how to be that person that people want to love and be around.
Can anyone help?
Amos
September 27th, 2008 at 2:43 am
gewoon open kaart speelt over ALLES tel wanneer je iemand een partij, wil zij de neiging te clost aan u en het meest waarschijnlijk vertellen je veel, dus formin een band tussen jou en hen, dan bent u dicht
September 29th, 2008 at 6:32 pm
I understand your feelings, it is very difficult re-connecting. I am a combat vet and have been a loner ever since. You sound like a very worthwhile and intelligent person with lots of soul.
Being “most comfortable” alone is fine. We all desire friendships and the need for acceptance but with that requires trust. You are not alone, be yourself, and those that acknowledge you’re gifts and creativity will be open to you.
September 30th, 2008 at 12:09 am
Vind iemand wie de geneeskunde van de praktijkenenergie, die u kan helpen uw hartenergie deblokkeren. Het klinkt als toen uw Mamma stierf, zette u een ' barrier' rond uw hart zo u wouldn' t wordt gekwetst anymore. Nu voelt u een veiliger beetje zodat is uw hart bereid opnieuw aan te sluiten, en u don' t behoefte de barrière meer. Iemand wie een psychospiritual therapeut is, of wie therapie van de praktijken de emotionele vrijheid, of zelfs een geestelijke het levensbus zou moeten kunnen bijstaan. Goed geluk!